Let Us Laugh On The Same Joke Again And Again ^^

"A wise man once sat in the audience and cracked a joke..all of them laughed like crazy. After a moment he cracked the same joke again & a little less people laughed this time... He cracked the same one again and no one laughed, then he smiled and said "when you cant laugh on the same joke again and again then why do you keep crying over the same thing over and over again". Let go the past and move on."

James, thanks so much for a wonderful sharing. In life, many of us easily forgotten about the happiness that we can easily find it anywhere and anytime. Instead of being grateful of what we found and have, we whine about the sad, seeking for sympathy and care from friends.
My Happiness can be found through...
A morning shower
A warmly smile from a friend or stranger or even from myself ^^
A healthy chocolate protein shake in the morning
A simple breakfast for myself and my colleague
A morning greeting
A beautiful weather (rain can be a beautiful weather to me too ^^)
A Zac & Sara morning radio show
A "Hi" from a friend  from Skype
A cup of coffee
A full lunch follow by yawn ^^
A customer's order
A sweaty jog
A sound sleep
A dive trip
A climbing afternoon with friends
An afternoon tea with my "bestest" friends ^^
A chat with my parents and kids
.............................long list to go. Do I have sadness, yes I do, but I do not cry over again and again, because I have to save my time laugh again and again for the much happiness I found. ^^

All about My Dad... 爸, 爱你 ^^

The story starts here...

My dad grew up in a village at East Coast Malaysia, I always mixing up the few places he mentioned, Trengganu, Paka, Pekan, Kuantan...as long as East Coast. He is an orphan and the only child. My grandmother passed away when he was 9 and grandfather passed away when he was 12. He then live with uncles and cousins, no siblings. He didn't finished his primary, started work since early teen-hood. He worked for his uncle's kopitiam, sells chendols, save some money and took a bus to Kuala Lumpur without knowing anyone, soon introduces by friend and he apprenticed with a carpenter master. When age 16 he went to Singapore alone with some money borrowed from friend.

He then settled down in Singapore for nearly 10 years. But do not know how he got himself involved as the representative for the labour force (I think) and politics. He is not a communist but his thinking is so communist :) with his limited education background and very much on self learning (I'm playing the scene now how he listened to the cassette self-learned his English), still his political views and perspectives was influential among the workers and even the Nanyang University's students. And he got himself hunted by the Singapore government for almost a year, caught him finally and expelled from Singapore, prohibited his entry to Singapore until last ten years I think, when he was reaching 60 after numerous appeals.

After being sent back to Malaysia, through Malaysia internal affair officers, then only he realized he can't go back to Singapore. Because of this political issue, our family has two nationalities, thanks much to politic, long story short, we have two nationalities in our family. My mom, my three younger sister and brothers are Singaporean and three of my siblings grown up there and now have their families in Singapore. My dad, me and my elder sister are Malaysian and living with my mom here in Malaysia.

Accepted the fact, from there on, he started selling goreng pisang (fried banaana), but knowing it won't bring him anywhere, he then learned baking, improvised it (my dad bakes well, really good, too bad I didn't pick up any of his skill). Started from cycling till opened his own bakery with the peak of almost twenty workers. He then ventured into other businesses like light bulbs manufacturing, farming and few more but all failed, some cheated by friends and piled him debts.

But I never heard him once mentioned any about his debts. Love my dad very much. Salute his courage facing difficulties, respect his toughness facing the whole world alone before he has his family. His teaching is much on talk to us, educate and explain why (but I got canned the most, well don't blame him now because I'm just too active :p ). Didn't realize he influence me so much in my life until I have my own kids. I'm adopting much of his way of bringing up my children.

He is very hard working, never complaint about how hard he work. He is humorous, He face difficulties alone with courage. He was hot tempered when younger (my mom is on my next writing, she is one woman behind a man, taking all his angers through these years). He doesn't smoke, doesn't drink, no womanizing. His only hobby is reading, even till now. He writes well, believe me, so well. I still remember clearly when I was young, our house never had a TV until I reached 17, all we had was books, so you can see how much he loves readings. Which is good, I think me and my siblings picked up our reading habits from that. We communicate a lot, almost in everything and especially politics. ^^

My dad doesn't make it big in materials, but he surely make it big in his children's heart. I am who I am today because I am standing tall on a Giant - My Dad. 我爸让我站在巨人肩膀上成长!

The Grown Up

When we were young and immature, we will remember and fall back to those who love us unconditionally especially during hard time and the grown up is when we can't wait to share our happiest moment with those who loves us most ^^

15minutes

Man always thinks his woman needs a big shelter, so he try his best working hard to provide her big house or houses till no time for her...but the fact is, what his woman needs is just a space in his arm for just 15mins a day.
Men think the sense of security is to provide more money to their loved ones, the women want the sense of security from their heart, that's how the 15mins for...
The golden rule of 15mins arm space...the man only needs half the effort to provide what he thinks his woman needs because his woman will do the rest when they have their 15mins arm space daily. Trust me on this ^^

Smiles & Tears

Yes I know I have sweet smile and that is because you were nice to me that's why I choose to smile at you ^^ If you ever had a chance saw me with tears when I'm with you, that's because...

1/ you hurt me
2/ you touched me
3/ Thank you for being around when I needed most.

With any one from the above...I'm saying "Thank You" for being part of my life.

Words can only touch you when you feel it :) Thank you for feeling them, your feeling added the life to my words.

THE PENCIL STORY

The Pencil Maker took the pencil aside, just before putting him into the box. "There are 5 things you need to know," he told the pencil, "Before I send you out into the world. Always remember them and never forget, and you will become the best pencil you can be."

"One: You will be able to do many great things, but only if you allow yourself to be held in Someone's hand."

"Two: You will experience a painful sharpening from time to time, but you'll need it to become a better pencil."

"Three: You will be able to correct any mistakes you might make."

"Four: The most important part of you will always be what's inside."

"And Five: On every surface you are used on, you must leave your mark. No matter what the condition, you must continue to write."

The pencil understood and promised to remember, and went into the box with purpose in its heart. Now replacing the place of the pencil with you. Always remember them and never forget, and you will become the best person you can be.

One: You will be able to do many great things, but only if you allow yourself to be held in God's hand. And allow other human beings to access you for the many gifts you possess.

Two: You will experience a painful sharpening from time to time, by going through various problems in life, but you'll need it to become a stronger person.

Three: You will be able to correct any mistakes you might make.

Four: The most important part of you will always be what's on the inside.

And Five: On every surface you walk through, you must leave your mark. No matter what the situation, you must continue to do your duties.

Allow this parable on the pencil to encourage you to know that you are a special person and only you can fulfill the purpose to which you were born to accomplish. Never allow yourself to get discouraged and think that your life is insignificant and cannot make a change...

Source: Like the Flowing River by Paulo Coelho

Trying Too Hard To Be Happy?

On the first day of 2011 morning, a friend was telling me that I'm trying too hard to be happy. I explained him which I'm not and I'm truly happy and grateful of what I've done and doing and do not hide any of my feelings including sadness. If feeling of sadness needed, I'll still express my sadness and tears my feeling.
But the next day, I had a different thought about this "trying too hard to be happy". I shouldn't deny or explain this, because I do not mind if I'm really trying hard to be happy, at least I'm not inviting sadness easily. If I want to be happy, I can find thousand of things to be happy about and same goes to the opposite. But why do I want to waste my time inviting sadness instead of rejecting being happy? just because scare somebody may say "you are trying hard" ^^ But in some point he actually reminded me with what he said, trying hard...yes, in today's world, we are seeing too much of unhappiness, sadness can come by itself's visitation whether we like it or not, but happiness needs to be search or perhaps inventing it.

So, if you are telling me now..."Gal, you are trying too hard to be haappy...", I will answer "WHY NOT?" ^^

Welcome 2011!

Happy New Year 2011!

A great new year countdown I had at Penchala House with nice people, watched 3 beautiful fireworks ^^ Songs, dance, foods, laughs & friends.
Had a wonderful 2010 despite a serious heartbreaking relationship, yet I am still feeling happy and joyous for what I've been through. Accomplished lots in year 2010 - Completed my MBA, tried wall&rock climbing, water rafting, completed my 15km and 21km marathon in time, did my first nudy profile :p, new friends... Gosh! I am amaze with my own capacity and grateful about all the wonderfulness around me.
Will I expect the same for this new 2011 year? Nope...I won't say I expecting but I'm surely anticipating another year full heartedly like what I did last year. Because every best bit of life will only happen if I appreciate my life every moment of it.
Wishing all my friends a great year ahead fills with joys, laughters and good health ^^

Bravo to a whole new year!