“今天” 见到你真好 ^^

清晨你好 ^^
太阳在照，白云在飘，微风轻轻吹；
花朵在开，绿叶在长，树木寸寸高；
小狗在叫，猫咪在跳，鸟儿高声唱；
小孩在跑，公公在追，婆婆咪咪笑；
我呢？ 我在舞，我在唱。。。“今天” 见到你真好！ ^^


写着的时候， 突然这首旧歌 ”躲也躲不了” 的旋律一直在脑里晃 ^^

Love Is A Gamble...

There is no right or wrong in a relationship. Only that we are carrying different values and rules of the game. Problems occur only when one didn't explain the rules well at the very beginning and one assume knowing the rules.

In a relationship, we might be lucky enough to find someone knows how to play our game but rules must always lay out clearly from the very beginning. The best part in a relationship is that, rules can be change at anytime according to circumstances.

So that's how the phrase "Love is a gamble..." derived. You think you know the rules and playing the game well? Banker or player is too early to tell as long as you are still in the game.

My Political View

I have no preference in any party...you may say I do not have my ground in my political view but I do stand my ground firmly on any individual or party doing right. I do not mind if Teresa, Tun Ma, Tuan Guru or even 钟延森, if they are running for PM. As long as they are contributing and doing good to the nation. As Deng Xiao Ping 邓小平 saying..."不管黑猫或白猫， 捉到老鼠就是好猫" (A good cat catches mice no matter their in black or white) 

I'm seeing individuals voice out at their preference when they belong to a certain party. Is that right? Are we suppose to support every move for the party we are in even if they are wrong? Or is the opposition parties must object everything so to show they are the opposition party? It make me ponder...

I cannot help myself quiet on what I am feeling about the latest issue, a morning talk show's DJ from 988 : Jamal was out from the show because of his political comments. And tis morning the show was replaced by an entertainment talk. I've just started listen to this morning talk show not long ago and I'm so glad that we finally have a channel dare to speak out the truth and voice out for the people, it takes courage to do it. I was immune to M'sia politic for long and after listening to the show, I finally put up on my FB abt M'sia politic again.

We voice out because we care, because we love. I have tear while typing this because I am sad that our leaders can't accept the truth and we are putting the country we love to them at no choice? I believe the 'Truth' will always have their channel to reach. The refrain of freedom of speech is the sign of a fall of a nation...but the show is now taken out. Of course, if you have been following the talk, this come not a surprise. Bottom line is our leaders know they are wrong but hate when someone shout it loud.

It is sad to see a country has no right in voicing out how they feel, I'm seeing this in our neighbor country, I am seeing teachings like this start right from family, school, work and country. Children are not allow to speak freely in family or in school, employees can't voice out freely in their work and come to people do not have freedom of speech expressing their view. If the voice is with respect, for good and or a better future, why not? If we cannot hear other's voices, how are we improving ourself? If we cannot rational the right and wrong, how are we bringing our next generation at their best? How can we have a future that we longing for?

Is the culture shape the system or the system shape the culture? Do we want a culture that restrict and frame the people. Then is that possible for a cultural change?

Oh...Relationship...

I've shared this on my Facebook status yesterday. A friend told me her husband told her that he does not loves her anymore, staying in the house like a hostel, have no responsibility of taking care of the children and maintaining the house. I wonder...Man, if you have the guts to tell her you do not love her anymore, why not have the guts to face it or leave the family? For once Please act like a MAN!

I'm sad to see this friend of mine changed so much after all these, she holds so much of grudges and hatred, holding on the marriage just because of the children. I was trying to get her out from the hatred but each time before I finish my line, she starts counting me another bad point about her husband.

I might be judgmental only hearing one side of the story, because no outsiders have any rights to judge who is right and wrong in an marriage. In Chinese we always have this saying "清官难审家务事" (A good judge can't solve a family issue). But at least as a man knowing there is a problem, try talk it out or stay out. Just can't stand some people avoiding it. That's what happen to a lot of marriage or relationship, just because one party do not want to be seen as the "Bad person", they ended up living like a zombie in the relationship.

Dev posted a question "Why a loving couple once , can lost their feelings, emotions , intimacy and passion??"

In my own opinion, a marriage is like a business, it needs to be maintain. It hurts more than a business failure that only incurred money, it involve everyone in the family. A relationship needs review and reflex too from time to time. Just like a business, it will reach a plateau, how do we create new products to boost the business revenue? What R&D needs to be done? What is the market trend? In relationship, before the passion is over, how do we maintain and creating the spark again?

Some relationship like sole proprietorship or limited company, any failure will only effect the partners, the directors and some employees. Marriage is like a listed company, it involving the stakeholders which the family members. How to have a "Built to Last" marriage?

We see many partnership failure in business and it is not surprise in relationship too if we didn't put the focus, time and effort into it. Are the both parties growing together? Are the couples doing things together? I always believe third party is not the cause of a relationship failure but it is surely a trigger point to explore the volcano. If a relationship is strong and firm, there is no way any third party can walk into them.

Yes, it is not about the gender issue here, it is all voice down to Love. Love is a chemistry, love needs many factors to maintain. The harder to work on a relationship comparing to a business because business is science, all knowledge and skill sets can be learn through a systematic way, but Love is an art, art needs to be feel, feeling it with passion.

William added that "many couple started their relationship as an ideal partner to the opposite so they can get it on, later they change back to their true self as such relationship fall apart. Other change later in life as they grew apart, this is also very common and in this case no one are at fault....life must go on. But no matter what, we must be truthful to each other and clean up the mess. Love is all about sharing, if there is nothing to share anymore, no point continuing the relationship."

Alex भद्र Saw was super duper angry on this post and brought up many points, one of it is this "besides love, thats responsibility.....towards your own children and your spouse, true man dun leave them ...they sacrifice their own greed, try hard to maintain a happy family, to me, i personally live in hell oso wanted my family live in heaven....me never important, my family joys, happy, life utmost important, .... living in this world not just for yourself, try think of others, able to bring joys, happiness, care to others indirectly bring joys and success to you, thats the meaning of love"

A relationship is like a game, every level is a new challenge and new profound, and it will depends on how a couple walk through it together. I've been through it, and it took me years to know what is it all about and I'm still learning, learning it on a real hard way.

With here, I wish those who found their love one a happy, joyous journey in their relationship. Is not easy to find someone we love and willing to walk with us in this whole wide world.

I Live For My Life

I had been so true, so true until I got myself hurt again and again. 

I was true about friendships, I was true about relationships, I was true about my careers, I was true about everything i do and people i come in contact with.

But now I ask, was I being true to myself? I guess i was not, otherwise I will not be hurt so much.

From now onwards, "be true to myself...I live for my life"

To love and to be love again? I doubt...

Quarter past two, I'm still awake. For the first time, I finally understand how is the feeling when part of you died...

Find it scary that in such a short time, I find you in every corner, I find you in every memory, everywhere and things I do, I'm seeing you. I started to believe you were in my life, I was allowing you walked into my life so much and so easily. You stolen part of my life when I was off guarded.

I know for sure one day I will just laugh at what is happening now. I keep telling myself that I want to remember this feeling, because as time goes, when it is gone it will be gone forever. I'm feeling the fading now... I want to get over it, because I can't take the pain anymore.

I'm throwing the key away, so far away that I won't be able to find it, so that this pain will lock inside a corner of my heart and can never be open again.

To love and to be love again? I doubt...

Taman Negara 201007

A nice trip to Taman Negara with Francesco and Maha :) Love the feeling finally able to put my footprints in M'sia 130million years tropical rain forest. Mother nature, nice new frens, great weekend ^^

读书是为了什么？

读书是为了明理，世上的万事万物都离不开一个理字，把理字想清楚了，做起事来就有了主张，也就不会偏向一边。但是又不能守死理， 因为道理不是一成不变的。
所以读书是让你能明辨是非， 明了才会辨别。

（取自雍正王朝连续剧-邬先生对乾隆幼年的对话）

We All Meant To Shine As Children Do

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate, our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure, it is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. Your playing small does not serve the world, there is nothing enlightened about shrinking, so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We will all meant to shine as children do, is not just in some of us, it is everyone and as we let our own light shine. We unconsciously give other people permission to do the same as we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.

(Taken from movie Coach Carter)

Be Confident, Be Yourself!

Your weakness is always your strength or via verse.
Challenges always bring out the best of you if you are truthful to yourself and others. No worry about obstacles may face, God will send you your Guardian angels and the Universe will bring you help.
Be Confident, Be Yourself! ^^

心宽

‘心’ 要永远青春， 才能保持活力；
‘心’ 要永远健康， 才能正面积极；
‘心’ 要永远善良， 才能体会快乐；
心宽永远是最好的良药 ^^

好习惯造就成功

习惯运动锻炼，
身体健康快乐；

习惯阅读看书，
知识广及学习能力强；

习惯分享心情，
学会表达及与人相处；

懂得自我勉励， 学会面对压力。

好习惯造就成功。。。
与你共勉之 ^^

The Best Goal Is No Goal?

A nice blog found... Smile.Breath and Go Slow...

Like it because the blog reminding us why are we living for ^^ Not that I agree totally on a "No Goal" life, but I have my own perspective reading it and blending it with some of my thoughts. Living your life by choosing a goal you love is important, but always allowing yourself to adjust your path and ways to get there so that you will enjoy the journey. Never give yourself any excuses of not having any goal in life because with that you might lost the purpose in life too. Unless we are so sure we are a born planner, a born planner will have everything structure in their mind without needing a written plan.

I met a lot of people do not know what they want in life, do not know where and how to get what they want because they never know what they want in life. I think this is how many younger generations live their life like.

As the author mentioned, I was living my life with plenty of goals before. Most I achieved it, some not and I was beaten up by those I failed. And the blog came right so to remind me again, Smile.Breath and No Goal. Allowing myself to go freely once in a while, yes, the plan will soon be back for sure.

I wish everyone have their life master blueprint in mind but remember to smile at every ups and downs, breath in freely and openly, enjoy a jolly journey in life ^^

I Got Burnt...

I was playing with fire and I got myself burnt. Burnt so badly till I have to stay away from fire...because by seeing or even hearing it will remind me the pain.

After so many years, I've finally learned "Don't play with fire - coz you'll never know when and how much you'll get burn"